Tell me the answer: What is the best move when you do not know what to do?

January 14, 2017

By Eddy Montilla.

STRESS

A waiting move, because any precipitous action leads most of the time to failure. A waiting move is typical of analytical games, especially of chess. It is used when the situation is not clear, so you just make a move that will not compromise your position until you can see something better.

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Lessons of life: The lesson of the chess game

August 30, 2016

By Eddy Montilla.

CHESS

My father taught me how to play chess at early age, so early that I cannot remember the moment. Since then, I have learned a lot of things from this analytical game, things that I usually try to apply to my life. I have learned to be patient, not to force the issue and move according to the circumstances until I can be in better position to move forward. I have learned to find the best answer, to take the best decision by observing all my possibilities, etc.

    In chess, a player has a specific rating that puts him or her in a particular category. In my case, I consider myself an average player with a rating between 1700 and 1800 (lass B, category 2). Last month, I was playing chess on the Internet, and every time my opponent was under my rating, I felt like a hungry lion ready to devour its prey. However, despite my almost endless optimism, when the player was over my rating, I felt like a dog with its tail between its legs.

    These days, I have decided to try something different and hide my opponent’s rating, name, nationality, etc., and now I only keep in front of me the chessboard. What has been the result? I have been winning four and five games in a row. Today, my rating is 1950, that is, “class A, category 1”. I also defeated two players over 2000 for the first time in my life. Players with this level are called experts. Now, when I play against these excellent players, their high ratings do not fill me with fear any more. The moral of this story is not my personal accolades, but this idea: You don’t know how far you can go, you cannot imagine what you are capable of once you gain confidence and control your fear.

    Until now, I have written more than 1000 stories and without any doubt, this is the most boring one, but believe me, it is also the most assertive and reliable among all of them because the idea I told you today was tested by myself it works. Control your fear, gain confidence and things that looked almost impossible for you, they will be suddenly in your hands.

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Tell me the answer: How can you get rid of the stress caused by the lack of time?

July 19, 2016

By Eddy Montilla.

STRESS

A simple replacement of words can help a lot to reduce the stress caused by the lack of time. Use “still” instead of “only”, and you will notice some benefits immediately. Let’s see an example: When you do not have time, the phrase “I only have 10 minutes” leads only to despair and haste while “I still have 10 minutes” gives you a hopeful and promising perspective of the problem.

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Tell me the answer: why should we always thank our enemies?

July 14, 2016

By Eddy Montilla.

ENEMIES

Because thanks to our enemies’ actions we can recognize and value our truly friends.

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Tell me the answer: What is your mission in life?

May 15, 2016

By Eddy Montilla.

LADDER

To detect what you love and do well first, and then, to use these things to make actions that have a strong and positive impact on as many people as possible.

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Tell me the answer: What should you be in life?

March 10, 2016

By Eddy Montilla.

LADDER

What you can be.

I wish I could be a writer as fine as Óscar Wild, Franz Kafka, Ernest Hemingway or Mark Twain. But I can’t and I know I will never get their levels. I wish I could be a journalist like Diane Sawyer, but I can’t be like her either. So, what do I do? Since I cannot be any of these great people, I learned what I am and what I can be: Eddy Montilla. I don’t think I can stand at their sides in terms of greatness, but we can be at the same level in terms of happiness. Did you get the point? Instead of focusing on what you want to be, pay more attention to what you can be and try to improve starting from this perspective of life. And if you do that, I am sure that your life will be better because regret and frustrations will not haunt you never more.

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Lessons of life: The lesson of the comedian

February 4, 2016

By Eddy Montilla.

COMEDIAN

I went to Tokyo to see a wax museum, and the wax figures looked so real that sometimes they scared me! Near that place, there is a TV station and I was curious about its programs and the way they are conducted. I also wanted to see a couple of comedians who were working in a show that was not televised near the broadcasting station. One of the comedians looked at me and told me something like this in English: “I, the Japanese number one comedian!”

     He was joking. They were just a couple of amateurs trying to give it their best shot in front of an audience that barely reached 20 people. Two children and their mother laughed during their show, and three people asked discreetly who they were. When I was leaving the place, I could see them behind curtains talking to an American who greeted them with a smile: “Good job!” The American said.

     I saw an important lesson in his greeting: Do not kill people’s dream. In Japan, a country where sobriety fills in all holes laugh could get in through, to be a comedian is something titanic, basically because jokes are framed and should match Japanese canons of behavior, moral and culture. Since I was a child, to make people laugh has been one of my pleasures. I think I know how to do it and I also know how difficult it might be. These two comedians might never be something of national TV celebrities, but that could not care less. What is truly important is that they were working wholeheartedly on something they want to do, despite difficulties, and for something like that in our current society, guts are needed.

     When you kill someone’s hopes, a flower dies somewhere, someone is hurt and someone cries. Encourage people to carry on rather than discourage them. And if a person does not have the virtue to do that, at least, should have the dignity to keep his or her mouth shut.

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