Thought of the day: Happiness and pain

September 1, 2016

By Eddy Montilla.


Happy and sad moments share something in common: They always come to an end and they always revive. The biggest difference is that when your happy moments die, not always sad moments are born as result of it, but when your sad moments die, as a reward, your happy moments are reborn to bring you consolation, peace and, above all, to make you feel happier. If you are sad because you lost your job, someone very important to you passed away or for any other reason, remember that happy moments die, but so does pain. Be patient, hold on tight, hang in there. Sooner or later, your pain will die and your good moments will be reborn to be at your side.

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Thought of the day: variety and continuity

April 11, 2016

By Eddy Montilla.


Variety is truly important because it brings fun and happiness to your life, but never forget that it is continuity what will really help you to achieve what you want.

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Tell me the answer: What should you be in life?

March 10, 2016

By Eddy Montilla.


What you can be.

I wish I could be a writer as fine as Óscar Wild, Franz Kafka, Ernest Hemingway or Mark Twain. But I can’t and I know I will never get their levels. I wish I could be a journalist like Diane Sawyer, but I can’t be like her either. So, what do I do? Since I cannot be any of these great people, I learned what I am and what I can be: Eddy Montilla. I don’t think I can stand at their sides in terms of greatness, but we can be at the same level in terms of happiness. Did you get the point? Instead of focusing on what you want to be, pay more attention to what you can be and try to improve starting from this perspective of life. And if you do that, I am sure that your life will be better because regret and frustrations will not haunt you never more.

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Lessons of Life: The lesson of the mother

August 6, 2015

By Eddy Montilla.


Near the place where I was, a mother tried to have a lively conversation with her daughter, but to no avail: She only had one-syllable answers and was not able to take her eyes off her smartphone. When the mother noticed such lack of interest, her questions dwindled away to nothing and a strange silence that makes us know that something is wrong emerged. In the light of this context, the mother couldn’t help waiting for her daughter’s change of attitude: It never happened. She waited patiently and, after some time, she said goodbye politely and went away. To be honest, the sadness of her face is something that comes to my mind whenever I visit the place where this situation happened. As for her daughter, she kept using her smartphone.

     The more a person helps you the more you thank him/her. In the past, children lived in difficult conditions and they also witnessed how hard they parents had to work every single day to put bread on the table. Life was not easy: Hard manual work, people braving the heat of the sun in summer and low wages. Children thanked their parents a lot because they saw how hard they worked for them and this feeling of gratitude was long-lasting. These days, however, children see their parents go to work in their own cars. They don’t know and they don’t think about parent’s efforts because everything (food, games, etc.) has always been within reach. It is something natural for them and that’s why the feeling of gratitude towards parents has dropped to reach low levels.

     When this story happened, I felt sorry, angry and happy simultaneously. I felt sorry for that mother who probably went home asking herself what was wrong. I felt angry at this girl who has never thought about the times her mother had to leave her bed in the middle of the night to feed her whenever she was hungry, whenever she was crying. Yes, she has never thought about the times her mother had to bath her after drinking milk or having diarrhea. Finally, I felt happy because I belong to a prior generation and by the time that this “modern society” turns into a cake beautifully decorated outside, but full of excrement inside, I will not be here. I hope we can change for the better, I hope so.

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Tell me the answer: When do people usually give up?

June 22, 2015

By Eddy Montilla.


When they had already covered more than half the distance they needed to achieve their goal or, in the worst case scenario, after hammering their obstacle 99 times, they sigh, shake their head sadly and turn back, unaware that with one more hit the wall would have crumbled.

     To go back seems easier and shorter, but it is in fact, the lengthiest trajectory.

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The cross that all of us have to carry

September 14, 2014

By Eddy Montilla.


The other day, I heard someone saying this: “I wish I could go back to my student years, so that I did not have to deal with this job every single day!” According to this person, there are sectors in our society that do not have problems or at least have less than others. And it is right. But if you take a close look at all people around you, you will notice that we all have to struggle with something every day, have problems and have to wear or drag a cross.

     Lebron James, an American professional basketball player, is an NBA superstar and one of the most celebrated players in the history of the sport. He is one of the most renowned and successful athletes that this era has seen. His ability is unparalleled and he is moving firmly to become a billionaire. But this James that people applaud when comes onto the court grew up and became a father without a father at his side. It is highly likely that the ghost that a father’s absence creates is still haunting him. Add to this problem, the fact of having a mother battling her alcohol abuse and his own problems since whenever he has the ball in his hands, he has to come up to people’s expectations. This man also has a cross on his back.

     Actors, singers, presidents, writers, all these people that you see smiling on TV, when they are behind cameras where nobody can see them and when they can go back to their own and “real reality”, fight against stress, depression, family matters and many other things. Despite their fame, they cannot escape from their light or heavy cross nor can the student who has difficulties to pass an exam, the man who wanted to be a doctor, your neighbor nor yourself. Now that it’s clear everybody has a cross on his or her back, the question is… what should I do with it?

     To compare crosses will add crosses and, at the end, we all look like a cemetery. So do not spend your time trying to find consolation in expressions like “Others have crosses bigger than yours”, “your problems are nothing compared to other people’s problems”, etc. It would be a selfish and illusory solution with no effective results. I do not agree with the idea of “accepting your cross” as many people, especially those connected with religious groups usually say because it tastes of resignation; it is like saying: “There is nothing we can do.”

     What we really have to accept is our reality. This is the key to deal with this situation. And our reality says that we all have a cross to carry while we are alive. Do not accept your cross, but the fact that this cross will be present at your side, on your back or wherever, but always forever. Then, you can work every day to make your cross and the other’s easier and lighter to carry. You will see that a day will come when you will not even notice that it is there.

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Lessons of Life: The lesson of gratitude

September 5, 2014

By Eddy Montilla.


Last month, I went to Tokyo to take some pictures and carry out journalistic work. At Tokyo station, “innumerable” trains departed every three minutes or something and made stop every one or two minutes, which will make you confirm that this capital has one of the best (if not the best) rail system in the world in terms of efficiency and safety. When the train that I took made its second stop, two mothers with their children got on it. These mothers were so tired that they swayed from side to side as they walked and their children (they were 4 or five years of age) were about to fall sleep. That was the moment when a 10 or 11-year- old girl offered her seat to the children, and their mothers, of course, said thanks to her. “Everything looks normal so far. Where is the lesson, then?” You might ask.

    The problem is that some minutes later, a passenger got off the train and a seat was available again. And what do you think that these mothers did? Instead of repaying the little girl’s kindness to their children by offering the seat, they managed to sit together and chat as if nothing had happened while the little girl was still standing. What a crazy world we live in! Whenever you do a favor, act as if you suffered from amnesia to forget the favor you did as soon as possible, but never, never forget the favor that other people did for you.

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