Thought of the day: Happiness and pain

September 1, 2016

By Eddy Montilla.


Happy and sad moments share something in common: They always come to an end and they always revive. The biggest difference is that when your happy moments die, not always sad moments are born as a result of it, but when your sad moments die, as a reward, your happy moments are reborn to bring you consolation, peace and, above all, to make you feel happier. If you are sad because you lost your job, someone very important to you passed away or for any other reason, remember that happy moments die, but so does pain. Be patient, hold on tight, hang in there. Sooner or later, your pain will die and your good moments will be reborn to be at your side.

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Thought of the day: variety and continuity

April 11, 2016

By Eddy Montilla.


Variety is truly important because it brings fun and happiness to your life, but never forget that it is continuity what will really help you to achieve what you want.

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Tell me the answer: What should you be in life?

March 10, 2016

By Eddy Montilla.


What you can be.

I wish I could be a writer as fine as Óscar Wild, Franz Kafka, Ernest Hemingway or Mark Twain. But I can’t and I know I will never get their levels. I wish I could be a journalist like Diane Sawyer, but I can’t be like her either. So, what do I do? Since I cannot be any of these great people, I learned what I am and what I can be: Eddy Montilla. I don’t think I can stand at their sides in terms of greatness, but we can be at the same level in terms of happiness. Did you get the point? Instead of focusing on what you want to be, pay more attention to what you can be and try to improve starting from this perspective of life. And if you do that, I am sure that your life will be better because regret and frustrations will not haunt you never more.

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Lessons of Life: The lesson of the mother

August 6, 2015

By Eddy Montilla.


Near the place where I was having a cup of coffee, a mother tried to have a lively conversation with her daughter, but to no avail because she only had one-syllable answers when her mothers asked something and she was not able to take her eyes off her smartphone. When that mother noticed such lack of interest, her questions dwindled away to nothing and a strange silence that makes us know that something is wrong emerged. In the light of this context, the mother couldn’t help waiting for her daughter’s change of attitude: It never happened. She waited patiently and, after some time, she said goodbye gently and went away. To be honest, the sadness of her face is something that comes to my mind whenever I visit that place. As for her daughter, she kept using her smartphone.

The more a person helps you the more you thank him/her. In the past, children lived in difficult conditions and they also witnessed how hard they parents had to work every single day to put bread on the table. Life was not easy: Hard manual work, people braving the heat of the sun in summer and low wages. Children thanked their parents a lot because they saw how hard they worked for them and this feeling of gratitude was long-lasting. These days, however, children see their parents driving cars. They don’t think about their parent’s efforts because everything (food, games, etc.) has always been within reach. It is something natural for them and that’s why the feeling of gratitude towards their parents has dropped to reach low levels.

When this story happened, I felt sorry, angry and happy simultaneously. I felt sorry for that mother who probably went home asking herself what was wrong. I felt angry at this girl who has never thought about the times her mother had to leave her bed in the middle of the night to feed her whenever she was hungry, whenever she was crying. Yes, she has never thought about the times her mother had to bath her after drinking milk or because of diarrhea. Finally, I felt happy because I belong to a prior generation and by the time that this “modern society” turns into a cake, beautifully decorated outside, but full of excrement inside, I will not be here. Do not forget your mother.

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Tell me the answer: When do people usually give up?

June 22, 2015

By Eddy Montilla.


When they had already covered more than half the distance they needed to achieve their goal or, in the worst case scenario, after hammering their obstacle 99 times, they sigh, shake their head sadly and turn back, unaware that with one more hit the wall would have crumbled.

     To go back seems easier and shorter, but it is in fact, the lengthiest trajectory.

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The cross that all of us have to carry

September 14, 2014

By Eddy Montilla.


The other day, I heard a man saying this: “I wish I could be a famous and rich person, so that I could live a happy life without dealing with this job and my boss every single day!”

According to this person, there are people in our society who do not have problems and live happily all the time, which is something absolutely wrong. Take a close look at all people around you and you will notice that we all struggle with something, that we all have problems. In short, we all have to drag a cross. Whenever I think about this topic, it comes to my mind stories like the life of an American professional basketball player, an NBA superstar and one of the most celebrated players in the history of the sport. He is one of the most renowned and successful athletes that this era has seen. His ability is unparalleled and he is moving firmly to become a billionaire. But this player who people applaud when comes onto the court grew up without a father at his side. It is highly likely that the ghost that a father’s absence creates is still haunting him. This man, believe it or not, also has a cross on his back.

Actors, singers, presidents, writers, all those people that you see smiling on TV, when they are behind cameras where nobody can see them, and therefore, they can go back to their own reality, fight against stress, depression, family matters and many other things. Despite their fame, they cannot escape from their light or heavy cross nor can the student who has difficulties to pass an exam, the man who wanted to be a doctor, your neighbor nor yourself. Now that it’s clear that everybody has a cross on his or her back, the question is … what should I do with it?

To compare crosses will add more crosses to those we already have and, at the end, we look like a cemetery. I do not agree with the idea of “accepting your cross” as many people say because it tastes of resignation; it is like saying that there is nothing we can do. What we really have to accept is our reality. This is the key to deal with this situation. Do not accept your cross, but the fact that this cross will be present at your side, on your back or wherever, but always forever. Then, you can work every day to make your cross and the other’s lighter to carry. You will see that a day will come when you will not even notice it.

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Lessons of Life: The lesson of gratitude

September 5, 2014

By Eddy Montilla.


Last month, I went to Tokyo to take some pictures for a newspaper article that I had to write. When the train that I took made its second stop, two mothers with their children got on it. Those mothers were so tired that they swayed from side to side as they walked while their children were about to fall sleep. That was the moment when a girl offered her seat to the children, a fine gesture appreciated by those mothers who quickly said thanks to her.

The problem and main point of this story came later, when a passenger got off the train and a seat was available again. What do you think that those two mothers did? Instead of repaying the little girl’s kindness to their children by offering the seat, they managed to sit together and began to chat as if nothing had happened while the girl was still standing. Whenever you do a favor, act as if you suffered from amnesia to forget the favor you did as soon as possible, but never, never forget the favor that other people did for you.

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