Tell me the answer: What is the best move when you do not know what to do?

January 14, 2017

By Eddy Montilla.

STRESS

A waiting move, because any precipitous action leads most of the time to failure. A waiting move is typical of analytical games, especially of chess. It is used when the situation is not clear, so you just make a move that will not compromise your position until you can see something better.

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Thought of the day: Change

November 7, 2016

By Eddy Montilla.

change

Only two things are unavoidable in life: Death and change. About the first one, it is almost nothing what we can do. As for changes, specially these days when we undergo constant transformations at a rhythm that our society had not been seen or faced with in the past, you should be smart enough to accept them, to accept their existence and reality to avoid failure and great stress. And after that, be wise to adhere to those changes that really matter while putting the others far away from you.

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Tell me the answer: Why are the elderly happy when they see young children?

October 25, 2016

By Eddy Montilla.

elderly

Because these young children become a mirror in which the elderly can see how long they have lived and that makes them feel happy. Besides, they enjoy the fact that for each life that comes gradually to an end, there is a new one growing strongly.

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Jesus’s ideas (1): About family

October 22, 2016

By Eddy Montilla.

jesus

The reasons for family problems have barely changed. Perhaps, because we try to conceal them, they come these days in different wrappings, but in essence, we are talking about lack of communication, education, serious financial problems, etc. Without denying some progress, the truth is that they are still there, as present as snow in winter and heat in summer. Jesus seemed to have an explicit or implicit answer for everything. If we turn to him looking for some advice about family problems, at first, things do not look very encouraging since few things are written about this topic. However, these few things are enough to solve most of our problems. Let’s see them:

     Lead a normal family life: The almost nonexistent information about Jesu’s family for almost three decades can give us the first clue. If nothing was said during this long period, it is because nothing out of the ordinary happened, it is because he had a normal life, and remember that about normal things, writers do not use their ink to write. Forget about being a superdad, a supermom or a superson. The daily family relationship that you cultivate with your family will make balance to live in harmony.

     Inclusion instead of exclusion: It seems that people like geometry when it comes to family relationships. They make a circle and put themselves in the center of it. Then, make another circle for their wives and sons; another circle for their parents, brothers and sister, their grandparents and so on. We are talking about concentric circles in which people are put per family relation grades, circles that instead of bringing people closer, make them grow further apart. Jesus’s proposal was indeed a more difficult task, but with better results. For him, there was only one circle, and everybody has an opportunity to be part of it, especially those who fight for a better world, those who suffer and struggle in life every single day, those who show compassion, etc. Jesus did not have the limits and concept we have about family ties. Thanks to his attitude, he could see in John, his disciple, a son for his mother when he was dying on the cross, so that she did not have to suffer for the prejudice of those times when living alone for a widow or just widowhood itself represented difficult times in a woman’s life. Do not build a wall around a handful of people who sooner or later will not be at your side forever no matter how much they want to. Extend your horizon until you can see in any person a possible father, mother, brother, etc. Then, you will always have a father to admire, a mother to call and a brother to talk.

     Put first what is first: And what is first? God, so simple like that. Until now everything looked fine, but when we reach this point, people consciously or not, want to turn the page and run away. Why? Because this point about putting God above all things seems to be difficult to understand for many people and the first part of the Bible, with its multiple rules, instead of helping to clarify the situation has made some kind of “biblical risotto”. But if you can put the mystical aureole aside from this idea, you will see that when God comes first in your life, somehow, what you are doing is putting your family and other people first because it means to do first what God said via Jesus: to love your neighbours as yourself. And if you can do that for your neighbours, you do not have to tell me how much you will do for your own family.

This article was originally published in the digital newspaper World And Opinion with Eddy Montilla.

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Thought of the day: Happiness and pain

September 1, 2016

By Eddy Montilla.

LOVE-PAIN

Happy and sad moments share something in common: They always come to an end and they always revive. The biggest difference is that when your happy moments die, not always sad moments are born as result of it, but when your sad moments die, as a reward, your happy moments are reborn to bring you consolation, peace and, above all, to make you feel happier. If you are sad because you lost your job, someone very important to you passed away or for any other reason, remember that happy moments die, but so does pain. Be patient, hold on tight, hang in there. Sooner or later, your pain will die and your good moments will be reborn to be at your side.

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Lessons of life: The lesson of the chess game

August 30, 2016

By Eddy Montilla.

CHESS

My father taught me how to play chess at early age, so early that I cannot remember the moment. Since then, I have learned a lot of things from this analytical game, things that I usually try to apply to my life. I have learned to be patient, not to force the issue and move according to the circumstances until I can be in better position to move forward. I have learned to find the best answer, to take the best decision by observing all my possibilities, etc.

    In chess, a player has a specific rating that puts him or her in a particular category. In my case, I consider myself an average player with a rating between 1700 and 1800 (lass B, category 2). Last month, I was playing chess on the Internet, and every time my opponent was under my rating, I felt like a hungry lion ready to devour its prey. However, despite my almost endless optimism, when the player was over my rating, I felt like a dog with its tail between its legs.

    These days, I have decided to try something different and hide my opponent’s rating, name, nationality, etc., and now I only keep in front of me the chessboard. What has been the result? I have been winning four and five games in a row. Today, my rating is 1950, that is, “class A, category 1”. I also defeated two players over 2000 for the first time in my life. Players with this level are called experts. Now, when I play against these excellent players, their high ratings do not fill me with fear any more. The moral of this story is not my personal accolades, but this idea: You don’t know how far you can go, you cannot imagine what you are capable of once you gain confidence and control your fear.

    Until now, I have written more than 1000 stories and without any doubt, this is the most boring one, but believe me, it is also the most assertive and reliable among all of them because the idea I told you today was tested by myself it works. Control your fear, gain confidence and things that looked almost impossible for you, they will be suddenly in your hands.

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Thought of the day: Haste and failure

August 21, 2016

By Eddy Montilla.

INDECISION

You have probably heard that desperation is the origin of failure. This is partially right. In math, the number two exists because there is a number one. Well, desperation is the number two. And number one? It is called haste.

     A person had to pay the rent of his house and a car he bought on hire purchase by tomorrow morning or… (you know already what will happen to him.). He did something illegal to get the money. In cases like this one, people usually say that he did that in his desperation, but if you analyze carefully his situation, you will notice that the real reason was not that, but the rush to get the money. If he had had one or two months to pay, he would not have done something illegal. Stay away from haste and you will stay away from failure.

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