Tell me the answer: What is the best move when you do not know what to do?

January 14, 2017

By Eddy Montilla.

STRESS

A waiting move, because any precipitous action leads most of the time to failure. A waiting move is typical of analytical games, especially of chess. It is used when the situation is not clear, so you just make a move that will not compromise your position until you can see something better.

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Thought of the day: Happiness and pain

September 1, 2016

By Eddy Montilla.

LOVE-PAIN

Happy and sad moments share something in common: They always come to an end and they always revive. The biggest difference is that when your happy moments die, not always sad moments are born as result of it, but when your sad moments die, as a reward, your happy moments are reborn to bring you consolation, peace and, above all, to make you feel happier. If you are sad because you lost your job, someone very important to you passed away or for any other reason, remember that happy moments die, but so does pain. Be patient, hold on tight, hang in there. Sooner or later, your pain will die and your good moments will be reborn to be at your side.

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Lessons of life: The lesson of the chess game

August 30, 2016

By Eddy Montilla.

CHESS

My father taught me how to play chess at early age, so early that I cannot remember the moment. Since then, I have learned a lot of things from this analytical game, things that I usually try to apply to my life. I have learned to be patient, not to force the issue and move according to the circumstances until I can be in better position to move forward. I have learned to find the best answer, to take the best decision by observing all my possibilities, etc.

    In chess, a player has a specific rating that puts him or her in a particular category. In my case, I consider myself an average player with a rating between 1700 and 1800 (lass B, category 2). Last month, I was playing chess on the Internet, and every time my opponent was under my rating, I felt like a hungry lion ready to devour its prey. However, despite my almost endless optimism, when the player was over my rating, I felt like a dog with its tail between its legs.

    These days, I have decided to try something different and hide my opponent’s rating, name, nationality, etc., and now I only keep in front of me the chessboard. What has been the result? I have been winning four and five games in a row. Today, my rating is 1950, that is, “class A, category 1”. I also defeated two players over 2000 for the first time in my life. Players with this level are called experts. Now, when I play against these excellent players, their high ratings do not fill me with fear any more. The moral of this story is not my personal accolades, but this idea: You don’t know how far you can go, you cannot imagine what you are capable of once you gain confidence and control your fear.

    Until now, I have written more than 1000 stories and without any doubt, this is the most boring one, but believe me, it is also the most assertive and reliable among all of them because the idea I told you today was tested by myself it works. Control your fear, gain confidence and things that looked almost impossible for you, they will be suddenly in your hands.

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Thought of the day: Haste and failure

August 21, 2016

By Eddy Montilla.

INDECISION

You have probably heard that desperation is the origin of failure. This is partially right. In math, the number two exists because there is a number one. Well, desperation is the number two. And number one? It is called haste.

     A person had to pay the rent of his house and a car he bought on hire purchase by tomorrow morning or… (you know already what will happen to him.). He did something illegal to get the money. In cases like this one, people usually say that he did that in his desperation, but if you analyze carefully his situation, you will notice that the real reason was not that, but the rush to get the money. If he had had one or two months to pay, he would not have done something illegal. Stay away from haste and you will stay away from failure.

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(6) Six steps for a good job interview

July 27, 2016

By Eddy Montilla.

INTERVIEW

Not to be called for a job interview hurts less than the bad news about being rejected because those who belong to the second position usually say: “I was so close this time…” A lot of people see their dreams of working for a particular company evaporate because their mistakes during the interview ruin their chances of getting the job. If you are reading this article is because you will have an interview soon. Take a look at these steps before, and perhaps, they can help you.

Step 1: rehearse before the interview

     If you are not a person gifted in words, you should start from this point: Rehearse possible questions and answers to gain confidence and control nervousness. Confidence comes from the fact of having practiced in advance, which means you will be treading on familiar grounds, and this
practice will make you feel that it is not the first time you face this situation, so you will be able to have your interview without apprehension.

Step 2: Get dressed in accordance with the position that you are applying for

     Little things have the peculiarity of creating big impressions. A boss does not expect you to come wearing a suit and carrying a briefcase if you are applying for a carpenter job, but he does not expect you to come wearing a uniform and holding a handsaw either, especially if you are applying for a position that traditionally requires a formal dress code.

Step 3: show confidence without falling into the other extreme: overconfidence

     An immediate boss or supervisor is always afraid of an indecisive person who has been hired since his job will increase, and his salary will remain as it is. So, during your job, you should show that you are naturally strong and firm, a self-confident person about your job, but at the same time, a person who can also be flexible enough to listen to the others and reach an agreement. Except for those situations where theory and practical exams are required, candidates are not asked to show all they know during an interview. It means that words might be decisive, so make them your best weapon in the good sense of the word, but be careful with them too. You have probably heard about many people who got hurt with their own weapons, right? Therefore, avoid being overconfident and exaggerations when you have to talk about your capabilities. Do not sell yourself as one of the know-it-alls of this generation who can solve any problem, but as a person who can contribute to the firm’s success. People usually hate the first person because he or she could act dishonestly and love the second one because he or she helps without causing problems.

Step 4: control your emotions and show a happy countenance

     After his exam, Oliver said to his friends: “I did it badly in my exam!” Then, when everything has finished and he’s checking the answers, he responds correctly to almost all questions. I am sure that something similar to this story has happened to your friends or perhaps to you. It is a good example about how emotions without control can ruin our projects. The point here is not to be free from pressure or nerves (everybody has such kind of feelings during a job interview), but to find a way to control them. Besides, do not forget to smile since a smile and happy countenance can work miracles. Remember that nobody wants to work with a person whose face looks like a pit-bull terrier.

Step 5: Handle your answers in a way that you do not highlight your abilities and needs, but your contribution to the firm’s success and its needs.

     This is probably the most important step, and despite that, the most underestimated. During a job interview, people tend to respond and talk giving the impression or suggesting that they can do this and can do that. It is something like… “I have studied a lot, have a lot of experience and I am, therefore, the perfect candidate for this position”. However, a boss has a different approach to this situation. I personally believe that in most cases, he is wrong, but on the other hand, I know that, putting it in quite practical terms, he is right when he thinks that the only perfect person is the owner for being the owner and the person who can do many things is himself because he is the boss. It is absolute illusory to think that you can get better results by acting and talking about your skills, accolades, etc., like other candidates do in order to impress the employer. Show your contribution, your flexibility to work in group and individually, your commitment to the company, etc., and you will have better chances to get the job.

Step 6: Be punctual

     I do not think it is necessary to explain this subject in great depth: If you are late when things matter most, you will also be late for daily things at office. To all of this must be added the stress caused by haste.

     This paragraph has nothing to do with the steps mentioned before, but with the words thanks. If I am lucky and my pieces of advice helped you to get the job you wanted, rather than an e-mail to say thank you, I prefer that you donate 1% of your first salary for a donation to charity.

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Tell me the answer: How can you get rid of the stress caused by the lack of time?

July 19, 2016

By Eddy Montilla.

STRESS

A simple replacement of words can help a lot to reduce the stress caused by the lack of time. Use “still” instead of “only”, and you will notice some benefits immediately. Let’s see an example: When you do not have time, the phrase “I only have 10 minutes” leads only to despair and haste while “I still have 10 minutes” gives you a hopeful and promising perspective of the problem.

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Thought of the day: What is life?

July 15, 2016

By Eddy Montilla.

LIFE

Life is a succession of good things and misfortunes that are alternated enigmatically to bring to your eyes a couple of tears from time to time and bring to your face a broad smile many times.

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