Thought of the day: Change

November 7, 2016

By Eddy Montilla.

change

Only two things are unavoidable in life: Death and change. About the first one, it is almost nothing what we can do. As for changes, specially these days when we undergo constant transformations at a rhythm that our society had not been seen or faced with in the past, you should be smart enough to accept them, to accept their existence and reality to avoid failure and great stress. And after that, be wise to adhere to those changes that really matter while putting the others far away from you.

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Tell me the answer: Why are the elderly happy when they see young children?

October 25, 2016

By Eddy Montilla.

elderly

Because these young children become a mirror in which the elderly can see how long they have lived and that makes them feel happy. Besides, they enjoy the fact that for each life that comes gradually to an end, there is a new one growing strongly.

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Jesus’s ideas (1): About family

October 22, 2016

By Eddy Montilla.

jesus

The reasons for family problems have barely changed. Perhaps, because we try to conceal them, they come these days in different wrappings, but in essence, we are talking about lack of communication, education, serious financial problems, etc. Without denying some progress, the truth is that they are still there, as present as snow in winter and heat in summer. Jesus seemed to have an explicit or implicit answer for everything. If we turn to him looking for some advice about family problems, at first, things do not look very encouraging since few things are written about this topic. However, these few things are enough to solve most of our problems. Let’s see them:

     Lead a normal family life: The almost nonexistent information about Jesu’s family for almost three decades can give us the first clue. If nothing was said during this long period, it is because nothing out of the ordinary happened, it is because he had a normal life, and remember that about normal things, writers do not use their ink to write. Forget about being a superdad, a supermom or a superson. The daily family relationship that you cultivate with your family will make balance to live in harmony.

     Inclusion instead of exclusion: It seems that people like geometry when it comes to family relationships. They make a circle and put themselves in the center of it. Then, make another circle for their wives and sons; another circle for their parents, brothers and sister, their grandparents and so on. We are talking about concentric circles in which people are put per family relation grades, circles that instead of bringing people closer, make them grow further apart. Jesus’s proposal was indeed a more difficult task, but with better results. For him, there was only one circle, and everybody has an opportunity to be part of it, especially those who fight for a better world, those who suffer and struggle in life every single day, those who show compassion, etc. Jesus did not have the limits and concept we have about family ties. Thanks to his attitude, he could see in John, his disciple, a son for his mother when he was dying on the cross, so that she did not have to suffer for the prejudice of those times when living alone for a widow or just widowhood itself represented difficult times in a woman’s life. Do not build a wall around a handful of people who sooner or later will not be at your side forever no matter how much they want to. Extend your horizon until you can see in any person a possible father, mother, brother, etc. Then, you will always have a father to admire, a mother to call and a brother to talk.

     Put first what is first: And what is first? God, so simple like that. Until now everything looked fine, but when we reach this point, people consciously or not, want to turn the page and run away. Why? Because this point about putting God above all things seems to be difficult to understand for many people and the first part of the Bible, with its multiple rules, instead of helping to clarify the situation has made some kind of “biblical risotto”. But if you can put the mystical aureole aside from this idea, you will see that when God comes first in your life, somehow, what you are doing is putting your family and other people first because it means to do first what God said via Jesus: to love your neighbours as yourself. And if you can do that for your neighbours, you do not have to tell me how much you will do for your own family.

This article was originally published in the digital newspaper World And Opinion with Eddy Montilla.

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Curiosities: How fast and far does a sneeze travel?

August 7, 2016

By Eddy Montilla.

SNEEZE-2

     When you are about to sneeze, you breathe deeply, your body is full of air, pressure increases and the air is forced to come out through your nose and mouth at an incredible speed. How fast? Well, if we could throw a baseball at the same speed as we sneeze (100 miles or 160 kilometers per hour), we would have a millionaire contract as a pitcher in major league. As for the explosive sound we hear when sneezing, it is the result of the significant amount of air coming out of our relatively small mouth and nostrils. The intensity and onomatopoeia of a sneeze are both variable things. For example, in Japan people usually say “ハクション” (hakushon) when they sneeze while in many countries in Latin American people say “achís”, “atchoo” in USA and so on.

     As for the distance, every time you sneeze, what is coming out of your mouth and nose is not a bouquet of flowers, but thousands of germs that travel between 3 and 5 feet because of the force and speed that the mucus particles travel with when they move out of your body. If possible, use a mask or a handkerchief to protect other people around you, and in case of you do not have time to get your handkerchief out of your pocket (or you don’t have any), use your sleeves rather than your hands since you can infect many things after touching them with your hands.

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Tell me the answer: why should we always thank our enemies?

July 14, 2016

By Eddy Montilla.

ENEMIES

Because thanks to our enemies’ actions we can recognize and value our truly friends.

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(7) Seven steps to achieve a goal or objective

June 21, 2016

By Eddy Montilla.

GOAL

Only few people can achieve goals relatively easy. The rest of the people either struggle with their objectives or they simply cannot get them. we call these few people genius, and we admire, envy or hate them. But the truth is that you do not have to be a highly-gifted person in order to get a goal. The following steps can not only prove it, but help you to get your objectives too.

Step 1: Define clearly and exactly what your goal is

Most people want to get an objective, but they can’t even specify what they really want. Then, how do you pretend to get something that you don’t know? This story illustrates very well what I want to say: One day, M. P. stopped working, drew her chair up to mine and told me: “Eddy, I know what I want to be: An artist, I want to be a singer. You, by the way, are a terrible singer, but good at giving pieces of advice. I am sure you can help me.” She said.

“Do you want to be an amateur or a professional singer? A soloist or a member of a band? And since a question brings another question, do you want to be a member or the leader of the band? What kind of public do you want to sing for? What kind of music do you want to sing?”

“Too many questions.” She told me. M. P. made a small band and started to play the piano and sing. Years later, the band broke up, her goal evaporated and she never, never sang or played the piano again. For me, it would have been very easy to tell her on the day she approached me: “Learn, practice and work hard.” After all, these general guidelines are what people and books usually say. But it is obvious that it is not enough, and the proof is convincing: People do not usually get the goals they set out.

When you specify your goal, the distance becomes shorter (you can take a shortcut!), your goal is less complex and easier to achieve. If you still hesitate about this idea, just answer this question: What is easier for a boxer, to fight one or eight boxers simultaneously inside a ring? So let’s start from here: Define your aim and fight just one boxer.

Step 2: Identify things that prevent you from getting your aim

Perhaps you do not know exactly how to get the goal you have set, but I am sure that you are aware of what things deter or prevent you from getting it. If your goal is to buy a house, to stop squandering money is as important as to find a way about how to improve productivity for your finance. Not to drink excessively or smoke can be as necessary as to eat healthy food and exercise frequently if your goal is to be healthy. Find as soon as possible these negative elements, bad habits and buried them. If you can do that, you already have in your hands between 25% and 30% of your desired goal.

Step 3: Divide your goal into small an easier to achieve objectives

When objectives take a long time to be achieved, people tend to look the place where they are now and worry about how far they are from the end (goal) and finally they gave up half-way between the two points. It has happened to you, to me and almost to everybody. Perhaps, there are different solutions to this problem, but as far as I know, only one is effective and safe: Divide your long (or difficult) goal into consecutive small goals that can be achieved in a shorter period of time.

I live on the top of a small hill, steep enough to see ships from the balcony of my apartment. In the evening, after work, I usually walk home to keep my body in good shape. On days when things don’t go off smoothly, the slope looks steeper than ever and my apartment further. Instead of fixing my gaze on the hill to think about how far I am from home, I look for the nearest lamp post and say to myself: “The only thing I have to do is to get there.” Once I got the post, my next goal is to get the next one and so on, and almost without realizing it, I am opening my door. You cannot lift 200 kilograms, but if you divide your heavy load into several and small parts, you can take it everywhere.

Step 4: Make a plan and hold on tight to it

“To have a bad plan is always better than to have nothing.” My father always told me when he taught me how to play chess. When I grew up, I realized how true his words were and how important to apply plans to our lives is. “I want this” is an emotional phrase that can give you at most some sporadic motivation. A plan about how to get what you want is the real and rational thing that will help you to get the aim. Make a plan: Write down the way you can get your objective, the means you already have to get it, the means you lack and need, how long it will take to get it, obstacles, write down what you have to do every single day, etc. Make adjustments when necessary, but remember: Hold on tight to it.

Step 5: Be persistent and consistent

People generally gave up working on their projects because their actions are pushed by emotions. Bad decision: Feelings usually last for days only. You don’t get anything in that way or in short period of time. The plan in the step 4 will make you think and subsequently act in a logical and objective way. It will teach you to work hard on what you want, to keep hammering the head of the nail until you don’t see it anymore. That is called “persistence” and those who know this word and its meaning can tell you how hard to be persistent might be, but also how fruitful and helpful is.

As for the other idea, you cannot expect to achieve an important objective if you work on it whenever you feel motivated or whenever you remember that it has passed a long time since the last day you were working on your objective. To be consistent does not mean you have to work every day on the same matter, but you should have at least regular intervals between the moments you are working on your goal and the moments you don’t. Consistency is vital to achieve a goal and it is extremely related to persistence: When you are persistent, you are consistent and vice versa. But how can we be consistent, how can we get the strength to get this difficult characteristic? The next step will give you the clue.

Step 6: Monitor every day the plan you made to get your goal

This is the key of everything. When you made your plan, you assigned a specific day to each activity that should be carried out in order to get your objective. Do not go to bed without reviewing what you did on that day for your goal. Remember that each task done and reviewed will provide motivation, and above all, confidence to go for the next one. To check every day what you want will keep you focused on your goal, will help you not to forget what you are fighting for and, therefore, it will help you with your lack of consistency.

Step 7: Set feasible goals in life

To achieve a particular goal makes people feel satisfied, not happy as many people wrongly believe. I have seen hundreds of people fighting, struggling to achieve a goal and when they finally get it, sometime later, they say: “And now what?” So, don’t run after things that are evidently beyond your capabilities since it will make you feel frustrated for a long time, and even when you get them, the same question will arise: “And now what?” Instead, I recommend you to fill your life with multiple and practical goals that involve not only your personal accomplishments, but involve other people, goals that help to improve people’s lives as well as yours. It is the real goal that can bring long lasting joy to your life, and when the tiresome question (and now what?) arises again, you will have a nice answer for it: “I will go for another goal!”

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Thought of the day: variety and continuity

April 11, 2016

By Eddy Montilla.

HAPPINESS

Variety is truly important because it brings fun and happiness to your life, but never forget that it is continuity what will really help you to achieve what you want.

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