The cross that all of us have to carry

By Eddy Montilla.


The other day, I heard someone saying this: “I wish I could go back to my student years, so that I did not have to deal with this job every single day!” According to this person, there are sectors in our society that do not have problems or at least have less than others. And it is right. But if you take a close look at all people around you, you will notice that we all have to struggle with something every day, have problems and have to wear or drag a cross.

     Lebron James, an American professional basketball player, is an NBA superstar and one of the most celebrated players in the history of the sport. He is one of the most renowned and successful athletes that this era has seen. His ability is unparalleled and he is moving firmly to become a billionaire. But this James that people applaud when comes onto the court grew up and became a father without a father at his side. It is highly likely that the ghost that a father’s absence creates is still haunting him. Add to this problem, the fact of having a mother battling her alcohol abuse and his own problems since whenever he has the ball in his hands, he has to come up to people’s expectations. This man also has a cross on his back.

     Actors, singers, presidents, writers, all these people that you see smiling on TV, when they are behind cameras where nobody can see them and when they can go back to their own and “real reality”, fight against stress, depression, family matters and many other things. Despite their fame, they cannot escape from their light or heavy cross nor can the student who has difficulties to pass an exam, the man who wanted to be a doctor, your neighbor nor yourself. Now that it’s clear everybody has a cross on his or her back, the question is… what should I do with it?

     To compare crosses will add crosses and, at the end, we all look like a cemetery. So do not spend your time trying to find consolation in expressions like “Others have crosses bigger than yours”, “your problems are nothing compared to other people’s problems”, etc. It would be a selfish and illusory solution with no effective results. I do not agree with the idea of “accepting your cross” as many people, especially those connected with religious groups usually say because it tastes of resignation; it is like saying: “There is nothing we can do.”

     What we really have to accept is our reality. This is the key to deal with this situation. And our reality says that we all have a cross to carry while we are alive. Do not accept your cross, but the fact that this cross will be present at your side, on your back or wherever, but always forever. Then, you can work every day to make your cross and the other’s easier and lighter to carry. You will see that a day will come when you will not even notice that it is there.

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