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Last Love Poems: April 13

By Eddy Montilla.


If you were not you and I were not I,

if you were not my peace and I were not your confusion,

I would tell you what I feel, and perhaps, what I think…

I’d tell you that my body shudders with your presence

and my voice turns into silence.

I’d tell you that reality controls my desire

even though what I desire is other reality,

a piece of reality where we can walk along the seashore,

where we can pick daisies up every April 13

or just sit down on the grass of a prairie,

talking about everything, talking about nothing

in a world made of illusions where all is true,

where rivers sing, the wind walks

and butterflies repeat your name without cease.

If you were not real and I were not so imaginary,

if I were not a shadow life that dies with the dawn

and you the dawn that comes to life,

perhaps I would not have to live with this bitter past at my side,

with a glass of wine every April 13.

I could forget the nights sitting on the bench,

your shoulder and my shoulder taking shelter from the cold.

When you are present, I want to see you,

when you are absent, I want to see you more.

On every April 13,

I realize what you mean for me…

A rainbow of love, a linked heart that cries for freedom,

a fresh smile, tender eyes,

a lake, still and serene in the sunlight,

half of my life even though you have already my other side.

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August 15, 2015 Posted by | Articles, Arts, Blogging, Culture, Inspiration, Journal, Journalism, Life, Poems, Thoughts, Writing | , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Your question; my answer: Can you become a millionaire without riding roughshod over people?

By Eddy Montilla.


It is possible, but very improbable. Riding roughshod over people is precisely what millionaires use as a springboard to get their money.

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August 13, 2015 Posted by | Blogging, coaching, Economics, Education, Family, Life, Opinion, philosophy, Phrase, Quotes, Spirituality, Thoughts, Writing | , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

A Good Laugh: The smart duckling

By Eddy Montilla.


“Daddy, daddy, I am swimming!” A newborn duckling says while moving its legs.

“Good boy. And now get out of bed and jump to the pond!

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August 13, 2015 Posted by | Blogging, Fun, Funny stories, humor, Jokes, laugh | , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

PUERTO RICO: The uncertainty of independence is paradoxically the best option for the island

By Eddy Montilla.

Puerto Rico

You cannot solve a problem if you cannot define it or know its origin. A Puerto Rican can easily say, in Spanish or English, what Puerto Rico is in terms of jurisdiction: A Free Associated State to US (the Commonwealth of Puerto Rico). But I wonder if you can find a person in the streets of that island who can explain the meaning of these words that they say to you. Is Puerto Rico a country? No, it is not. Is Puerto Rico a state of USA? No, and that is why it cannot file for Chapter 9 bankruptcy protection as Detroit did in the past, for example. As you can see, Puerto Rico has a murky political status that cannot be defined, which is, in my opinion, the real reason of the island’s economic woes and the origin of Puerto Ricans’ problems: The island cannot even make interest payments on its huge $72 billion public debt and has begun to default on its bond payments for the first time since it became an island under United States’ jurisdiction 117 years ago.

     For many years, they have seen their political status and ties with USA as a safety belt or cushion, especially when they think about many Latin Americans in the region who cannot even reach a level to make a bare-bones living. The story has been the same for a long time: If something goes wrong, they lend money (in part, the reason for the island’s public debt) or go to the United States. But this apparently privileged position turned out to be over the years as illusory as a beautiful woman who had her body cut off in a magic trick because benefits from its political status and links to the United States are minimal compared to all problems it has caused. Let’s see: First, people’s initiative and inventiveness have been truncated. Second, if American companies go to China and other countries to avoid high taxes, how can they expect rich people to invest in Puerto Rico? The island’s social and political situation keep investors away since it’s not clear who is going to stand up for a company, for the island if financial problems arise. And third, people are lacking in identity. Can Puerto Ricans consider themselves American citizens? No, and they will never be seen in that way, the same as Latin American emigrants inside American territory. If you don’t even know who you are, how can you know where to go or how to move on?

     Until now, Puerto Ricans have only seen one side of the coin: The fear of not being able to be a self-sufficient country. Many products in Puerto Rico are more expensive than in USA despite having a per capita income lower than the poorest state in America. So the stagnant economy will continue for years and the island will never reach the level of other states in America. Then, why don’t Puerto Ricans try to be an independent country? Uncertainty always brings fear to our heart, but Puerto Ricans should also know that with hard work, it could bring a better future, especially when the side of the coin they are facing today is not good at all.

This article was originally published in the digital newspaper World And Opinion with Eddy Montilla.

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August 13, 2015 Posted by | Articles, Blogging, Countries, Economics, Journal, Journalism, News, Opinion, Think piece | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Your question; my answer: What is the difference for a man between making love when he is young and when he is getting old?

Por Eddy Montilla.


In general, when a man is young, he can enjoy to make love with any woman, no matter her color, age, height, weight, level of beauty or personality: Everybody is welcome! But for a man of mature years or when he is really getting old, if he does not like the woman who is front of him or does not have interest in her, he will probably walk straight past her without stopping to avoid embarrassment.

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August 11, 2015 Posted by | Blogging, Education, Family, Life, Opinion, philosophy, Phrase, Quotes, Spirituality, Thoughts, Writing | , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Let’s talk about movies: The Salvation saves your time

By Eddy Montilla.

Rating: 7.4/10

Directed by: Kristian Levring.

Written by: Kristian Levring and Anders Thomas Jersen.

Genre: Western.

MPAA Rating: R (Contain some adult material. Parents are urged to know more about the film before taking their young children with them).

Starring: Mads Mikkelsen (Jon), Jeffrey Dean Morgan (Henry Delarue) and Eva Green (Madelaine).

Running Time: 100 minutes.

Contrary to what many people think, the most difficult genre to make a film is probably a western. For a science fiction movie, almost everything is accepted; for other genres, a director can use different social and historical contexts, different things and ideas because our society has developed a lot. This is not the case when it comes to western movies since the film is anchored to a specific historical moment and few elements to combine: Hot desert, whisky, the bank, bullets and women. Then, you need to be a very good director to make a good film in such situation, that is, with few cards to play and you also have to be a good observer to see beyond the elements we talked before and understand the quality of a film. And that can give us a clue to explain why few western films are produced these days: Good directors and good members of the audience have dwindled from many to a bunch. Kristian Levring, with his movie The Salvation (2015), is really on the track to be counted among this small group of directors.

     The Salvation (2015) is an intense and nerve-racking movie from the beginning. You have Mads Mikkelsen (Jon), an European immigrant who wants to settle down with his family in the West of US, with a tough decision to take in only five seconds: To jump from a stagecoach and leave his family in the hands of a couple of gunmen or stay and see them die. Later, you see a scoundrel looking for Jon. He only sees his rifle under some debris and thinks one step in advance: “Jon must be hidden somewhere waiting for me.” So he decides to shoot at random here and there and when he thinks Jon is dead, he kneels down and takes a look around. It is a classic scene, right? So we all know what will happen: Jon will come up from nowhere and kill the scoundrel. We all were waiting for that shot in the forehead and… this shot never came. What happened there was so good that I cannot tell you this part.

     My real criticism for this movie comes at the end of it: Visual effects do not have space in a western movie. It was much better to let Jon move away naturally. Finally, I gave you two good reasons to see The Salvation (2015). If you still need a third one, you can see EVA GREEN (Madelaine). Wow!!!

This article was originally published in the digital newspaper World And Opinion with Eddy Montilla.

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August 10, 2015 Posted by | Articles, Arts, Culture, Film, Journalism, Literature, Opinion, Think piece, Writing | , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Curiosities: How long does it take for a spider to build or weave a web?

By Eddy Montilla.


Almost all blogs of this section, curiosities, come from things that happen in everyday life. For example, yesterday, I took a subway to go to work and I saw a web hanging from the ceiling. Considering that almost all places look immaculate in Japan, I wondered how long a spider needs to build (weave) a web. And this is the answer:

     A spider needs an hour to weave a web approximately. Spiders usually build a web to catch insects for food. To weave a web does not take too much time, but maintenance of it can keep a spider very busy because of wind, insects that are caught and, of course, the broom of the person who is cleaning the area. Finally, Spiderman can do this job faster if his boss, J. Jonah Jameson, is not yelling at him…”Paaaaarker, bring me the photos!”

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August 6, 2015 Posted by | animals, Articles, biology, Culture, Curiosities, Education, Family, insects, Journalism, natural science(s), Writing, zoology | , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

(4) Four steps to get along fine with your children

By Eddy Montilla.


You cannot take the end of a stick and leave the other end. If we write “Four steps to get along fine with your parents”, then, to see the situation from the other side, I mean how to get along fine with your children, is something expected. Let’s see the steps:

Step 1: Make your children feel that you are a person who gives sound advice rather than a bossy person who always gives orders.

     When they are very young, children do many things voluntarily, but when they grow up, almost every task that they are asked to do is carried out reluctantly. Why? Well, you don’t have to buy a book or visit a child psychologist to get the answer: Nobody wants to receive orders. That’s all. Remember how you feel whenever your boss tells you: “Do this and do that!” In general, people hate one-way-position, especially if this position is to obey only. Show them the benefits of doing something instead of giving them direct orders without any explanation. You will see better results.

Step 2: Give time and space to your children

     Children need their own space and time to discover and experience many things of life by themselves instead of receiving all things like a manual or an online tutorial. If you are too worried about how much space (“freedom”) you should give them, a good idea could be to demarcate it. However, once you stablish the limits, leave them take decisions, explore the physical or abstract area in which you put them. That will help them to develop abilities to deal with new things.

Step 3: Change the way you play and talk to your children as they grow up

     You might say: ”We all know that.” And I can say: That is the reason why we don’t do that. After all, we rarely pay attention to things we know, right? A child’s interest fluctuates from hour to hour, from day to day while an adult keeps a static position for his or her interests. If you, as a father or mother, do not make changes, there will come a time when you will not have a “connection point” that lets them play, chat or just spend time together. For example, in the past, you used to go together to a park and play there. Today, your son or daughter prefers to use a tablet to chat with his or her friends most of the time. What could we do? To make the necessary changes and adjustments. These days, teenagers spend more time using electronic gadgets than watching TV. Then, you could use his or her tablets as a focal point for all of you to be together. On that point, ideas are abundant.

Step 4: Do not deny the pass of time

     Children need to be looked after by their parents before and after coming to this world. You have to care of them for almost two decades (it is not coincidence that after this period of time they are called adults). During this long period, parents develop some instincts to care their children. The mental and emotional state created by these instincts and their love for their children is so strong that they cannot separated it from their objective thinking. That explains why many mothers do not go to sleep until their kids return home from a party at night or why a father is trying to help his son when is the father who really needs help. The more your eyes show you that your children are adults already, the more your heart will mislead you into believing that they are still children, and therefore, they need all your protection and help. For the good of your children, you have to put these feelings on the right track and avoid emotional distortions. Accept the fact that they are adults already and love the great effort you did to take them to this point.

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August 6, 2015 Posted by | Articles, Blogging, coaching, Education, Family, Journalism, Life, Opinion, Personal Motivation, philosophy, Think piece, Thoughts, Writing | , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Lessons of Life: The lesson of the chair

By Eddy Montilla.


Two ladies were in a coffee shop trying to escape from the high temperature of the day. They took a couple chairs from the adjacent table to put their bags and presents. Then, they were chatting in a comfortable way. Minutes later, a woman asked them to remove their belongings from the chair, put her drink on the table and went to the restroom. The two ladies took advantage of that moment to throw some poisoned darts with criticism:

     ”Why does she have to sit here if there are a lot of empty tables over there?” One of the ladies, visibly upset, said. And they drank their tea quickly and left the place as soon as possible. As for me, I tried to find some reason that could justify these ladies’ attitude, but I could not find any. In a public place, you can sit wherever you want. Besides, your order could give you the right to use the chairs where you sit, but not the adjacent ones.

     To try to justify your own mistakes is something as old as human beings. You can find this in your deepest feelings and attitudes, in you psyche, to a point that it has become a natural reaction in our society. So, I try to understand why people tend to adopt this critical stance. But it is difficult (at least for me) to understand why people tend to blame others for their own mistakes. Those chairs told me today that if you try to excuse your behavior or mistakes, you are just one among many others who do the same, but if you blame the others for your own mistake, among many people, you are one: One fool person.

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August 6, 2015 Posted by | Articles, Blogging, coaching, Education, Family, Journal, Journalism, Life, Opinion, Personal Motivation, philosophy, Social, Spirituality, Think piece, Thoughts, Writing | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Your question; my answer: When do you know that you are getting old (part 2)?

By Eddy Montilla.


When you behave in a stupid way in a public place in order to make a baby laugh despite the fact that neither the baby nor the baby’s parents are someone you know.

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August 6, 2015 Posted by | Blogging, coaching, Education, Family, Life, Opinion, philosophy, Phrase, Quotes, Thoughts, Writing | , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment


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