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Jesus’s ideas (1): About family

By Eddy Montilla.


The reasons for family problems have barely changed. Perhaps, because we try to conceal them, they come these days in different wrappings, but in essence, we are talking about lack of communication, education, serious financial problems, etc. Without denying some progress, the truth is that they are still there, as present as snow in winter and heat in summer. Jesus seemed to have an explicit or implicit answer for everything. If we turn to him looking for some advice about family problems, at first, things do not look very encouraging since few things are written about this topic. However, these few things are enough to solve most of our problems. Let’s see them:

     Lead a normal family life: The almost nonexistent information about Jesu’s family for almost three decades can give us the first clue. If nothing was said during this long period, it is because nothing out of the ordinary happened, it is because he had a normal life, and remember that about normal things, writers do not use their ink to write. Forget about being a superdad, a supermom or a superson. The daily family relationship that you cultivate with your family will make balance to live in harmony.

     Inclusion instead of exclusion: It seems that people like geometry when it comes to family relationships. They make a circle and put themselves in the center of it. Then, make another circle for their wives and sons; another circle for their parents, brothers and sister, their grandparents and so on. We are talking about concentric circles in which people are put per family relation grades, circles that instead of bringing people closer, make them grow further apart. Jesus’s proposal was indeed a more difficult task, but with better results. For him, there was only one circle, and everybody has an opportunity to be part of it, especially those who fight for a better world, those who suffer and struggle in life every single day, those who show compassion, etc. Jesus did not have the limits and concept we have about family ties. Thanks to his attitude, he could see in John, his disciple, a son for his mother when he was dying on the cross, so that she did not have to suffer for the prejudice of those times when living alone for a widow or just widowhood itself represented difficult times in a woman’s life. Do not build a wall around a handful of people who sooner or later will not be at your side forever no matter how much they want to. Extend your horizon until you can see in any person a possible father, mother, brother, etc. Then, you will always have a father to admire, a mother to call and a brother to talk.

     Put first what is first: And what is first? God, so simple like that. Until now everything looked fine, but when we reach this point, people consciously or not, want to turn the page and run away. Why? Because this point about putting God above all things seems to be difficult to understand for many people and the first part of the Bible, with its multiple rules, instead of helping to clarify the situation has made some kind of “biblical risotto”. But if you can put the mystical aureole aside from this idea, you will see that when God comes first in your life, somehow, what you are doing is putting your family and other people first because it means to do first what God said via Jesus: to love your neighbours as yourself. And if you can do that for your neighbours, you do not have to tell me how much you will do for your own family.

This article was originally published in the digital newspaper World And Opinion with Eddy Montilla.

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October 22, 2016 Posted by | Articles, Blogging, Family, Journalism, Life, Opinion, philosophy, religion, Spirituality, Think piece, Writing | , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Thought of the day: Happiness and pain

By Eddy Montilla.


Happy and sad moments share something in common: They always come to an end and they always revive. The biggest difference is that when your happy moments die, not always sad moments are born as result of it, but when your sad moments die, as a reward, your happy moments are reborn to bring you consolation, peace and, above all, to make you feel happier. If you are sad because you lost your job, someone very important to you passed away or for any other reason, remember that happy moments die, but so does pain. Be patient, hold on tight, hang in there. Sooner or later, your pain will die and your good moments will be reborn to be at your side.

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September 1, 2016 Posted by | Arts, Blogging, coaching, Culture, Education, Inspiration, Life, Literature, Perseverance, Personal Experience, Personal Motivation, philosophy, Phrase, Quotes, Spirituality | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Lessons of life: The lesson of the chess game

By Eddy Montilla.


My father taught me how to play chess at early age, so early that I cannot remember the moment. Since then, I have learned a lot of things from this analytical game, things that I usually try to apply to my life. I have learned to be patient, not to force the issue and move according to the circumstances until I can be in better position to move forward. I have learned to find the best answer, to take the best decision by observing all my possibilities, etc.

    In chess, a player has a specific rating that puts him or her in a particular category. In my case, I consider myself an average player with a rating between 1700 and 1800 (lass B, category 2). Last month, I was playing chess on the Internet, and every time my opponent was under my rating, I felt like a hungry lion ready to devour its prey. However, despite my almost endless optimism, when the player was over my rating, I felt like a dog with its tail between its legs.

    These days, I have decided to try something different and hide my opponent’s rating, name, nationality, etc., and now I only keep in front of me the chessboard. What has been the result? I have been winning four and five games in a row. Today, my rating is 1950, that is, “class A, category 1”. I also defeated two players over 2000 for the first time in my life. Players with this level are called experts. Now, when I play against these excellent players, their high ratings do not fill me with fear any more. The moral of this story is not my personal accolades, but this idea: You don’t know how far you can go, you cannot imagine what you are capable of once you gain confidence and control your fear.

    Until now, I have written more than 1000 stories and without any doubt, this is the most boring one, but believe me, it is also the most assertive and reliable among all of them because the idea I told you today was tested by myself it works. Control your fear, gain confidence and things that looked almost impossible for you, they will be suddenly in your hands.

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August 30, 2016 Posted by | Articles, Blogging, coaching, Education, Inspiration, inspiring stories, Journalism, Life, Literature, Perseverance, Personal Experience, Personal Motivation, philosophy, Spirituality, Think piece, Thoughts, Writing | , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Olympic Games: For more sports without borders

By Eddy Montilla.


     “What do you want to do right now?” The journalist asked. “I want to go back to Japan immediately!” The Japanese judoka said after winning a gold medal during the first days of The Olympic Games in Brazil, an answer that highlights the major problems facing sports today. He looked like a typical worker at the end of the day: “It’s six o’ clock, I finish my job, I go home,” with the huge difference that this athlete probably goes back to his country with a medal, fame and money waiting for him. At no time, did he talk about observing other competitions, encourage his friends, enjoy what it was supposed to be his most important event, etc. Later, people booing during a volleyball match between Japan and Brazil and an Egyptian judoka who refused to shake the hand of his Israeli opponent are enough examples to understand how the commercialization and politicization of sports are making sporting directors, coaches, athletes and spectators swim in “dirty waters”. These days, people do not see two remarkable athletes trying to show their magnificent sports qualities by giving their very best, but a war between two countries represented by two athletes. Rather than the competition itself, the countries’ rank in the medal table seems to be all that matters.

     Sportsmen have turned into wage-earing athletes who try to win at all costs since it would mean a new house given by a president or much more money into their bank account. This way of thinking has led to an increase of the number of athletes found guilty in anti-doping controls. The shameful Russia’s doping scandal during the 2014 Sochi Winter Olympics corroborates that the Olympic Games are business, to some extent, dirty business in which corruption walks freely bribing people from the International Olympic Committee to coaches and athletes with money.

     The real and pure sport is dying or, perhaps, it would be better to say that it is being killed by the illicit. If we do not tackle the problem at its root today, none sport will be worth seeing tomorrow. A possible solution to this problem could be that athletes do not represent their respective countries, but themselves. Thus, the Olympic Games could get the once-respected spirit back and athletes would not have to live with the struggling mixed feeling, half shame half pride of holding around their neck a dubiously awarded medal.

This article was originally published in the digital newspaper World And Opinion with Eddy Montilla.

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August 29, 2016 Posted by | Articles, Blogging, Journal, Journalism, Life, News, Opinion, Social, Sport, Think piece, Thoughts, Writing | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Let’s talk about movies: The Legend of Tarzan (2016) cannot be told to other generations

By Eddy Montilla.

Cinema seat and pop corn facing empty movie screen

Rating: 6.0/10

Directed by: Quentin Tarantino.

Written by: Quentin Tarantino.

Genre: Western.

MPAA Rating: R (contain some adult material. Parents are urged to learn more about the film before taking their young children with them).

Starring: Samuel L. Jackson (Major Marquis Warren), Kurt Russell (John Ruth), Jennifer Jason Leigh (Daisy Domergue) and Walton Goggings (Sheriff Chris Mannix).

Running Time: 167 minutes.

A movie can rarely escape from the prevailing trend of the time it belongs to, and today’s trend seems to be fantasy, action and the use of special effects, the application of computer graphics, like CGI (computer-generated imagery), etc. However, any trend, under any circumstances, gives a movie director green light to break one of the most basic and inviolable rules in the movie world: Films must always be directed according to its plot. The remake The Legend of Tarzan (2016) breaks so many times this rule that those who saw the real movie have the right to ask if they had to wait 110 minutes to leave the cinema.

     Tarzan (Alexander Skarsgård) was a baby raised by apes in the heart of the jungle. This very simple, but fascinating idea is the only base of the original film. A simple, pure and human story, quite different from The Legend of Tarzan (2016) in which, because of the computer-generated imagery in the movie, Tarzan looked like another superhero, a Paleolithic version of Batman or Superman, battling alone against dozens of extraterrestrial-looking men.

     The first 30 minutes of this movie were interesting: Tarzan and Jane (Margot Robbie) going back to Congo where they met many years ago for a diplomatic mission, Tarzan trying to reconnect with his roots, etc. are worth seeing. The rest is a canned cliché created according to the film world´s business parameters. If Samuel Jackson (George Washington) had not been there to give the movie some doses of hilarious moments, I think that even Tarzan would have given his negative verdict by adding some words to his classic cry: “Nooooooo mooooore!”

This article was originally published in the digital newspaper World And Opinion with Eddy Montilla.

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August 22, 2016 Posted by | Articles, Arts, Blogging, Curiosities, entertainment, Journalism, Literature, Movie reviews, Movies, Writing | , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Thought of the day: Haste and failure

By Eddy Montilla.


You have probably heard that desperation is the origin of failure. This is partially right. In math, the number two exists because there is a number one. Well, desperation is the number two. And number one? It is called haste.

     A person had to pay the rent of his house and a car he bought on hire purchase by tomorrow morning or… (you know already what will happen to him.). He did something illegal to get the money. In cases like this one, people usually say that he did that in his desperation, but if you analyze carefully his situation, you will notice that the real reason was not that, but the rush to get the money. If he had had one or two months to pay, he would not have done something illegal. Stay away from haste and you will stay away from failure.

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August 21, 2016 Posted by | Blogging, coaching, Education, Inspiration, inspiring stories, Life, Personal Experience, Personal Motivation, philosophy, Phrase, Quotes, Spirituality, Thoughts | , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Curiosities: How fast and far does a sneeze travel?

By Eddy Montilla.


     When you are about to sneeze, you breathe deeply, your body is full of air, pressure increases and the air is forced to come out through your nose and mouth at an incredible speed. How fast? Well, if we could throw a baseball at the same speed as we sneeze (100 miles or 160 kilometers per hour), we would have a millionaire contract as a pitcher in major league. As for the explosive sound we hear when sneezing, it is the result of the significant amount of air coming out of our relatively small mouth and nostrils. The intensity and onomatopoeia of a sneeze are both variable things. For example, in Japan people usually say “ハクション” (hakushon) when they sneeze while in many countries in Latin American people say “achís”, “atchoo” in USA and so on.

     As for the distance, every time you sneeze, what is coming out of your mouth and nose is not a bouquet of flowers, but thousands of germs that travel between 3 and 5 feet because of the force and speed that the mucus particles travel with when they move out of your body. If possible, use a mask or a handkerchief to protect other people around you, and in case of you do not have time to get your handkerchief out of your pocket (or you don’t have any), use your sleeves rather than your hands since you can infect many things after touching them with your hands.

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August 7, 2016 Posted by | Anatomy, biology, Blogging, Education, Family, general knowledge, Health, Journalism, Medicine, natural science(s), science | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Curiosities: Why do we sneeze?

By Eddy Montilla.


Last night, I had pizza for dinner. I put some black pepper on it and… Atchoo!! I sneezed immediately. Then, I wondered why we sneeze, my pizza got cold, but at least I could get some answers that I would love to share with you.

     A reflex is a movement or action that your body makes naturally in response to something and, in general, we are talking about something that we do without thinking and having much control of it. For example, the quick movement of your eyes to avoid the entry of a particle or an insect inside is a reflex that prevents your eyes from being hurt. A sneeze is also a reflex action, that is, a body’s natural defense mechanism. Whenever pollutant substances, dust, pollen or any other irritant substances enter into your body, your brain raises the alarm to indicate the presence of unpleasant elements, and your body reacts with a sneeze to try to remove it from your body. Other reasons are associated to the idea of clearing your nasal passage and “reset your system”, so that everything can work better.

     Irritant elements can also be found in some food in the form of chemical elements, which explains why pepper makes us sneeze. People usually sneeze one or two at most, but if you do this action several times, you should be interested in knowing that the number of sneezes can vary in accordance with the effort needed to get rid of the irritant substances out of your body. Sometimes, a simple sneeze is enough to get this task done, but sometimes it takes two, three or more. For example, just right now, believe it or not, I sneezed twice! Life is as strange as this curiosity, isn’t it?

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August 6, 2016 Posted by | Anatomy, biology, Blogging, Education, Film, Health, Journalism, Medicine, natural science(s), science, trip, Writing | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

A good laugh: Unwanted kisses

By Eddy Montilla.


A man staggers into his house and says: “You look so beautiful, sweetheart! Let me kiss all these moles you have on your thin arms one by one!!”

“Three things tell me that you are blind drunk, sir. First, I’m not your wife; I am a plumber. Second, “these thin arms” are two plungers to unblock your toilet and third, I had never seen a man kissing his own sh..t so happily!!”

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August 5, 2016 Posted by | Blogging, entertainment, humor, Jokes, laugh | , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

(6) Six steps for a good job interview

By Eddy Montilla.


Not to be called for a job interview hurts less than the bad news about being rejected because those who belong to the second position usually say: “I was so close this time…” A lot of people see their dreams of working for a particular company evaporate because their mistakes during the interview ruin their chances of getting the job. If you are reading this article is because you will have an interview soon. Take a look at these steps before, and perhaps, they can help you.

Step 1: rehearse before the interview

     If you are not a person gifted in words, you should start from this point: Rehearse possible questions and answers to gain confidence and control nervousness. Confidence comes from the fact of having practiced in advance, which means you will be treading on familiar grounds, and this
practice will make you feel that it is not the first time you face this situation, so you will be able to have your interview without apprehension.

Step 2: Get dressed in accordance with the position that you are applying for

     Little things have the peculiarity of creating big impressions. A boss does not expect you to come wearing a suit and carrying a briefcase if you are applying for a carpenter job, but he does not expect you to come wearing a uniform and holding a handsaw either, especially if you are applying for a position that traditionally requires a formal dress code.

Step 3: show confidence without falling into the other extreme: overconfidence

     An immediate boss or supervisor is always afraid of an indecisive person who has been hired since his job will increase, and his salary will remain as it is. So, during your job, you should show that you are naturally strong and firm, a self-confident person about your job, but at the same time, a person who can also be flexible enough to listen to the others and reach an agreement. Except for those situations where theory and practical exams are required, candidates are not asked to show all they know during an interview. It means that words might be decisive, so make them your best weapon in the good sense of the word, but be careful with them too. You have probably heard about many people who got hurt with their own weapons, right? Therefore, avoid being overconfident and exaggerations when you have to talk about your capabilities. Do not sell yourself as one of the know-it-alls of this generation who can solve any problem, but as a person who can contribute to the firm’s success. People usually hate the first person because he or she could act dishonestly and love the second one because he or she helps without causing problems.

Step 4: control your emotions and show a happy countenance

     After his exam, Oliver said to his friends: “I did it badly in my exam!” Then, when everything has finished and he’s checking the answers, he responds correctly to almost all questions. I am sure that something similar to this story has happened to your friends or perhaps to you. It is a good example about how emotions without control can ruin our projects. The point here is not to be free from pressure or nerves (everybody has such kind of feelings during a job interview), but to find a way to control them. Besides, do not forget to smile since a smile and happy countenance can work miracles. Remember that nobody wants to work with a person whose face looks like a pit-bull terrier.

Step 5: Handle your answers in a way that you do not highlight your abilities and needs, but your contribution to the firm’s success and its needs.

     This is probably the most important step, and despite that, the most underestimated. During a job interview, people tend to respond and talk giving the impression or suggesting that they can do this and can do that. It is something like… “I have studied a lot, have a lot of experience and I am, therefore, the perfect candidate for this position”. However, a boss has a different approach to this situation. I personally believe that in most cases, he is wrong, but on the other hand, I know that, putting it in quite practical terms, he is right when he thinks that the only perfect person is the owner for being the owner and the person who can do many things is himself because he is the boss. It is absolute illusory to think that you can get better results by acting and talking about your skills, accolades, etc., like other candidates do in order to impress the employer. Show your contribution, your flexibility to work in group and individually, your commitment to the company, etc., and you will have better chances to get the job.

Step 6: Be punctual

     I do not think it is necessary to explain this subject in great depth: If you are late when things matter most, you will also be late for daily things at office. To all of this must be added the stress caused by haste.

     This paragraph has nothing to do with the steps mentioned before, but with the words thanks. If I am lucky and my pieces of advice helped you to get the job you wanted, rather than an e-mail to say thank you, I prefer that you donate 1% of your first salary for a donation to charity.

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July 27, 2016 Posted by | Articles, Blogging, coaching, Economics, Education, Journal, Journalism, Life, Personal Motivation, Think piece, Writing | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment