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Your question; my answer: If you are fine and I am fine too, why do we go from bad to worse?

By Eddy Montilla.

Pulling

Because we are pulling instead of pushing.

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April 4, 2014 Posted by | Blogging, coaching, Inspiration, Life, Perseverance, Personal Experience, Personal Motivation, philosophy, Phrase, Spirituality, Thoughts, Writing | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Thought of the day: To forgive

By Eddy Montilla.

To take vengeance on somebody is synonymous with weakness. To forgive, however, is synonymous with strength.

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March 30, 2014 Posted by | Blogging, coaching, Inspiration, inspiring stories, Life, Perseverance, Personal Experience, Personal Motivation, philosophy, Phrase, Thoughts, Writing | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

The Dominican Republic: For a high-quality tourism

By Eddy Montilla.

Beach in the DR

The Dominican Republic has never done a well-organized job to promote tourism internationally. Despite that, millions of people travel there every year, attracted by its natural beauties, weather and people’s warmth. However, this image of great island for tourism has being tainted by anomalous people who, disguised as tourists and taking advantage of people’s poverty, go to the island to give free rein to their unquenchable thirst for prostitution and sexual aberration. We also have to add to this group those who visit the island to make shady business. All of them, with their actions, bring the image of the country into disrepute and they present it as a paradise for exploitation and sex tourism. I do not remember any government that has tried to put an end to this problem. Perhaps, people in that nation have been too indulgent with these corrupt tourists or perhaps they are too afraid of losing a couple of dollars.

     It is time to close the door to all these false tourists whose actions embarrass the country. Parents, teachers and social organizations should give children and women guidance on this situation. They should teach them how to find balance between their dignity and poverty and let them see that nothing is above respect and dignity, not even money.

     As for the Government, nobody can know how decent a person is by looking at his or her face, but when you offer high-quality tourism, depraved tourists decrease because they usually hang around places that match their low personality. The Dominican Republic is the most attractive country in the Caribbean for tourism and the island could receive a lot of benefits from this sector if a right work policy is applied to improve tourism in the country. President Danilo Mendina seems to be working in that direction with his efforts to reach 10 million tourists per year in the future. But in order to achieve that goal, not the President, but competent authorities have to improve the quality of what they offer and close the door to these depraved tourists.

This article was originally published in the digital newspaper WORLD AND OPINION with Eddy Montilla.

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March 30, 2014 Posted by | Articles, Countries, Economics, Journal, Journalism, Life, News, Opinion, Politics, Social, Travel | , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Let’s talk about movies: The Butler (2013) was good, but…

By Eddy Montilla.

Rating: 7/10

Directed by: Lee Daniels.

Written by: Danny Strong.

Genre: Drama.

MPAA Rating: PG-13.

Starring: Forest Whitaker (Cecil Gaines, The Butler), Oprah Winfrey (Gloria Gaines) and David Oyelowo (Louis Gaines).

Running Time: 132 minutes.

What makes some films good and others excellent is the director’s ability to handle “little details” properly. If you want to learn about movies, about how excellent movies are made etc., I recommend you to see The Butler (2013) and not because this film reached that level (it is just good), but to observe how to focus too much attention on the main idea of its plot prevented it from being excellent.

     The Butler (2013) is the story of a black person who worked at the White House as a butler and served eight American presidents. Cecil Gaines (Forest Whitaker) worked there over three decades withstanding racism and marginalization during the most difficult periods of racial segregation in the United States. And what is the problem? The movie was made as if everybody wanted to be in safe territory, something like having a glass of white wine if you have fish for dinner or red wine if you have steak. It seems that nobody wanted to take risks: Racism? No, problem. Put some scenes of torture, protests and Ku Klux Klan together and everything is going to be fine.

     Instead of the same tired old clichés, it would have been very interesting to see the story revolving around the parallel lives that Cecil Gaines (The Butler) and his son, Louis Gaines were living. The father thought that the best way to fight for black people was to protect his family while his son thought different and tried to mobilize the masses. I know that this idea had been more difficult and uncertain in terms of good results, but remember that you don’t make excellent movies or receive an Oscar with hackneyed ideas. Finally, enjoy the good work done by Forest Whitaker and pay special attention to the final minute of the movie when a young man is trying to show him the way: It is a profound learning experience.

This article was originally published in the digital newspaper WORLD AND OPINION with Eddy Montilla.

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March 30, 2014 Posted by | Arts, Film, Movies | , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

(5) Five steps to get along well with your husband/boyfriend

By Eddy Montilla.

SPOUSE

To spend the rest of your life with someone with whom you frequently have a quarrel is not a living hell, but… It must be close it! “I don’t understand my husband/boyfriend. What is the problem?” A lot of women have told me. And the problem is exactly the sentence they said, “I don’t understand him”. The problem is that we are only thinking about difficulties in our relationships instead of trying to understand better the person we have at our side. So, let’s see some steps on how to get along well with your husband/boyfriend, and I hope it can serve as a guide to help you have a better life together.

Step 1: Look for synchronization.

     A person can get along well with his or her brothers and parents (or if the worst comes to the worst, to put up with them!) just because they have been living together from the beginning. But when two people are together after being adults, the story is different, and once the first years of passion and sexual attraction are gone, the quality of their relationship changes and this situation puts a different complexion on it. For that reason, you have to learn to make adjustments, to put it more clearly, you have to adjust to your husband/boyfriend’s way of thinking and feeling. You have to learn to cede and give up sometimes and request or demand other times. This is to “Synchronize with your partner”.

Step 2: Remember that men are monochromatic.

     We lived, are living and will continue living for a while in a sexist society with inequalities against women. In a family where both parents work, for instance, when they get home, she has to cook, pay attention to her children and husband too while he can only think about the baseball game on TV. This unfair condition has only one bright side to look on: It gave women the opportunity to develop an incredible ability to do many things at the same time, that is, they are polychromatic. Men, however, are monochromatic and, in general, they cannot do things simultaneously. It is easy to understand this idea when you ask your husband to stay at home and take care of the children, for example. At the end of the day, he will be tired and go to sleep early. In other cases, you can see him breathing a sigh of relief when he knows that you are at home already. Things are better for men when they can use their way of working: Doing things one by one.

Step 3: Try to understand the affective need of your husband/boyfriend.

     The need for affection of men is paradoxically as higher as children’s, but the sexist society we mentioned before restricts the freedom to express their feelings clearly. “Boys don’t cry”, “Men are strong” and other phrases like these ones deeply entrenched prejudices very difficult to eradicate. When it comes to love, a lot of men are laconic; they think they make fools of themselves if they ask for a gentle caress or they just don’t know how to ask about it. So, remember that he will not ask for a caress, for example, but he will be waiting and longing for it. A gentle pat on the shoulder, a loving caress, etc., especially after a long day at work or when things are not going well can improve a lot a relationship.

Step 4: Do not use excessively your resource to insistence.

     A typical way for wives and girlfriends to obtain something from their partners or to make them do some task is to repeat and repeat and repeat the same. This old method works for some period of time, but in the long run, it brings more problems than benefits. Men usually need more time than women to think and find possible solutions. They need more time to reflect on things and the implications of their decisions. On this aspect, women have a clear advantage over men. Then, instead of repeating several times: “When are you going to do this? When are you going to do this?” to your husband or boyfriend, it’s much better to try something that encourages or challenges him.

Step 5: Make him see that to be together somehow means freedom too.

     It is very difficult to get rid of prejudice or a wrong way of thinking from a particular social context. For example, a lot of men think that the union between a man and a woman means the end of his freedom. This wrong perception has been alive for centuries and if you constantly ask your husband or boyfriend questions like “where did you go? where are you going? Who are you going with? Etc. your questions will only help to make them think that they are not wrong. A union must be based on trust and truth. Besides, constant questions might push him to do what you don’t want him to do. Instead, make him see that his family, home and you means freedom and peace. Make him see that all of you free him of worries about his job and problems. I can assure you that your relationship with your husband or boyfriend will be better from that moment.

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February 24, 2014 Posted by | Articles, Blogging, coaching, Education, Family, Inspiration, inspiring stories, Journal, Journalism, Life, Opinion, Perseverance, Personal Experience, Personal Motivation, Social, Think piece, Thoughts, Writing | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Last Poem of Love: Like you

By Eddy Montilla.

Sunflower

There must be someone like you

here, there, somewhere…

with a tender look, like you,

with dew lips and angelic voice,

someone who plays like a kid despite being a woman,

someone who keeps a smile on her lips,

even when life does not fulfill its promise,

someone full of hopes, full of dreams,

a glittering star in a world of wolves.

There must be someone who smiles, someone who cries,

someone like you

who grows sunflowers in an imaginary field

and runs after butterflies on sunny days.

There must be someone like you

here, there, somewhere…

Someone who shares her secret rainbows

and does not build walls with bricks of nostalgia,

someone who tucks a blanket around my thoughts during the nights

and becomes the awakening of my love, my morning prayers

or perhaps my shelter in my darkest moments,

someone who doesn’t have another horizon already,

and be able to love little things,

someone who does not trade rain for cold winds

or tread on dry leaves in autumn.

Perhaps only in my mind,

but now that you are not here and will never be,

my only comfort is to think,

to think that there must be someone like you

here, there or somewhere.

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February 24, 2014 Posted by | Articles, Arts, Culture, Inspiration, Literature, Poems | , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Curiosities: How many teeth does an elephant have?

By Eddy Montilla.

Elephant

What we see quickly and reality are frequently different things, and the teeth of an elephant are a good example to understand this idea. At a glance, it seems that an elephant only has two teeth, the two long curved tusks that stick out of its mouth. But an elephant has actually 6 teeth: Two tusks and four molars located in both their upper and lower jaws.

     Some elephants can reach a height of 4 meters and weigh 7,000 kilograms. Elephants are herbivorous and big, so they need to eat an enormous amount of vegetation (between 100 to 250 kilograms per day). This situation makes their teeth wear down. To solve this problem, elephants will lose their teeth and grow new ones, a process that will be repeated each certain period during their lifetime. When elephants can no longer grow any new teeth, they cannot eat and die from starvation after 60 or 70 years living in this world if they are not killed first by another animal, I mean, by some wild people who kill mercilessly the elephants, the largest living terrestrial animals, in order to sell their tusks.

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February 24, 2014 Posted by | animals, Articles, Curiosities, Education, Journalism, Knowledge, natural science(s), zoology | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Life is short? Nonsense!

By Eddy Montilla.

Short Life

A co-worker invited me to go out for a drink, but I could not go, so I courteously declined his invitation. He insisted several times and finally said: “Come on, let’s go out for fun; remember that life is short.” To be honest, his reason to go out for a drink only helped to give me another reason to decline his offer. Two days later, a student repeated the same phrase: “Life is short!” and to make the cliché more intolerable, I read it in the newspaper the same day!

     These occurrences made me think that we tend to become parrots, good parrots trained to copy what other people say instead of devoting a single minute to reason because… who said that life is short? Anne Frank died in a Nazi concentration camp in 1945. She was 15 years old, but her diary is a masterpiece that became a world classic. Mozart died at the age of 35 of rheumatic fever, but it is said that he wrote his first symphony when he was just eight years old. His masterpieces, the symphony No. 31 (Paris) and the symphony No. 41 (Jupiter) let him pass into the annals of history as one of the greatest composers of all time. Marilyn Monroe died when she was 36 and some people still daydream when they see her legs! Sorry, I wanted to write… Her posters! Jesus was killed at 33 and before that, in only three years, he divided the world into two: Before (B.C.) and after (A.C.) him. There are more examples, big ones and small ones to tell us that the most important thing is not the long years a person could live, but what this person did for his/her family, community, country and the world during his/her lifetime. Life is short? Nonsense!

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February 24, 2014 Posted by | Culture, Education, Inspiration, inspiring stories, Journal, Journalism, Life, News, Opinion, Perseverance, Personal Experience, Personal Motivation, philosophy, Social, Think piece, Thoughts, Writing | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

VENEZUELA: President Maduro is not living up to his “surname”

By Eddy Montilla.

Venezuelan President’s surname, Maduro, means maturity or ripe in English. However, on the evidence of his recent political moves, as president, he has shown to be “green”. At present, Venezuela has more problems than a turkey on days prior to Christmas: In 2013, the Government had to devalue its currency and Venezuela’s scarcity index, which measures the amount of goods that are out of stock on the market, hovered around 22 per cent, that is, you have to walk long distance to find meat, butter and the famous toilet papers. Besides, the country grapples with a soaring inflation, more than 50 per cent, one of the highest in the world.

    And what has President Maduro done to try to solve all these problems? Well, he created an unrealistic Vice Ministry of Supreme Social Happiness and asked for plenipotentiary powers to take actions and make decisions unilaterally. All these steps reveal that Mr. Maduro has many things to learn as president because I have no idea how he expects people in Venezuela to be happy if they can’t get staple foods or toilet papers. In a country with more than 30 million people, I don’t understand why he wants to try to do everything by himself instead of delegating tasks.

    After Chavez’s death, problems in Venezuela came up like water gushing out because Chavez wanted to be everywhere and be everything: President, secretary, journalist, etc., which is absolutely impossible. When he could not find solutions for a problem, he just hid it, and now that he is not here, problems are so many that President Maduro cannot cope with them.

    The most effective way to solve problems in a country is to analyze them, and draw up plans with short-term and long-term objectives. But in order to achieve that, you need a team-oriented mindset and you have to delegate. At least, this is the way people work in developed countries. About this aspect, President Maduro is going in the wrong direction in my opinion. He should reflect on his first year as Venezuela’s leader and learn from his mistakes because Venezuela, one of the largest oil-producing countries in the world, deserves a better future.

This article was originally published in the digital newspaper WORLD AND OPINION with Eddy Montilla.

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February 24, 2014 Posted by | Articles, Countries, Economics, general knowledge, Life, News, Opinion, Politics, Think piece, Writing | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

A Good Laugh: Give me a push!

By Eddy Montilla.

PLANE

A plane is full of madmen who have been transported to a new mental hospital. After a couple of hours, the pilot says: “The plane is running out of gasoline!”

The madmen start jumping from the plane, and the pilot, astonished, asks: “what are you doing?”

“You keep your hands over the joystick and we are going to give you a push!!

NOTE: This joke was published with the only idea to provide fun to the readers and, therefore, it has no the least intention to make fun of people with mental illness.

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February 24, 2014 Posted by | Fun, humor, Jokes, laugh, Life | , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

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